Ah, our Facebook friends. Some we can't live without and, well, then there are those other ones. It is the latter group that I'm focusing on today. We all know people like this, right?The chatty co-worker, the family member who can't keep a secret, that pretty girl you sat next to in junior high school. Wait a minute...if we all know people like this, is it possible that you might be one of those people, too?
I spend way too much time online, most of it on Twitter, Facebook, Google+ or LinkedIn. While you may not spend the hours online as I do, admit it, you are online a lot. My question to you is a simple one: How well do you really know your virtual connections?
With the launch of Google's new social network, Google+, there are many who have rushed to publish opinions about the demise of other networks, most notably Twitter and Facebook. Some have even gone as far as to shut down their accounts on these other networks to move their entire online network to Google+.
LinkedIn doesn't get much love in the "I can't wait to go online and have fun with my friends" category of social networking sites, but make no mistake - for professionals, wannabe professionals, businesses or non-profits, LinkedIn is where the real action is. While you may be getting benefit out of Twitter or Facebook, LinkedIn is probably where I'll find you first when I google you and where I'll look to get an early sense of your reputation.
Everybody uses Facebook differently. Just like all of social media, there is no one right way to use it. Still, I'm often asked how I use it. One of the common questions about Facebook concerns friend requests. How to choose which to accept and which to ignore?
If you grew up with a mother anything like mine, many of your childhood memories include being shushed and reminded to use your inside voice. We had three voices, but the one we heard the most about was our inside voice. Heaven forbid we might say something too loudly and the neighbors would hear! Little did I know these voices would come in handy when thinking about Twitter.
It had been nagging me for months, though I couldn't put my finger on exactly what it was. Things with my work have been going well and keeping me busy, but something didn't feel quite right. I know a lot of people, more than I've ever known at any other time in my life. I spend much of my day connecting with them in one way or another.
You've taken the job of connecting with the right people online seriously. You've methodically built your professional network of connections on LinkedIn. You've added your family, friends, old classmates and co-workers to your list of Facebook friends. This is a wonderful way to stay in touch by keeping up with status updates and photos, but what if you want to send a private email to one of your connections?
I already know almost all of you will be in one of two camps. Some of you will immediately feel my pain and totally get what I'm talking about. Others will think I'm making much ado about nothing and ought to let go of my outdated idea of how and where content is best shared. There will be a handful in the middle; those who can see both sides, but there won't be many of you in this third group. That said, let's get ready to rumble!
I'm a fairly self-assured person. Sure, I have days where I wonder about my place in the world or why, despite my best efforts, I continue to have jiggly arms. Still, most days, I'm confident of my abilities, my fabulous sense of humor, my remarkably average looks and my good fortune to know lots of killer-smart people. How, then, with all this self-confidence, did Facebook manage to hurt my feelings?